- Create a budget and stick to it! No matter how much your children tell you what they want, money does not buy love or happiness. Set a monetary limit and be creative.Try to give experiences instead of things.
- Keep your routine as much as possible.Try to exercise at your usual time, go to meetings that you normally go to, drink extra water, get some sunshine, and stick to as normal a diet as you possibly can.
- Think moderation.While it may be easy to drink and eat too much at holiday parties, try to not overindulge with food or alcohol and avoid the five-pound weight gain.
- Be realistic and try not to expect the “ideal” holiday.So many of us have distorted versions of what the holidays should be like and are disappointed year after year.Remember, no one has a perfect holiday tree or a perfect family, so try to be flexible.
- Stay connected.Spend time with friends and family who you are comfortable with.Call loved ones on the telephone, send written Christmas letters, share photos on social media, and ask for support if you need it.
- Don’t be alone on purpose.If you are alone, attend a church service or volunteer at a soup kitchen.Help out at a special needs children’s home or at a nursing home.Take a walk with a neighbor or play cards or board games to pass the time.
- Focus on today.You are a grown up now, so you don’t need to revert back to childhood spats or be angry about what happened 20 years ago.Each day we are alive is a gift!
- Start a new routine.Children grow up, they go to college, move away, get married and family members age. If the old family rituals aren't what they used to be, create some new traditions this year!
- Ask for help.During the holidays, adults attempt to take on too many tasks and get overwhelmed.It’s okay to ask for help from your spouse, family, friends and neighbors.Maybe they could help you bake cookies, decorate, shop, wrap gifts or transport you to church or a concert.
- Learn to just say no.It’s honestly okay to say no to some invitations.This is your holiday too!
The holiday season can bring a mixed bag of emotions for people of all ages. For some, it’s their favorite time of year. For others, it brings up feelings of loneliness and sadness. Feeling anxious or depressed is not unusual during the holiday season. The extra miles traveling, shopping, baking, decorating, additional house guests, family dinners, work parties, school concerts and other church events may cause a great deal of stress. These feelings may be even worse for individuals who have experienced divorce, had a death in the family, lost a job or are living hundreds of miles away from family. Here are some tips to beat the holiday blues this year: